The Only Way Out is Through
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I’ve spent years waxing poetic about living in the present. About intentionality. About embracing the now.
But here’s the thing, friends: sometimes your now just... sucks. And it’s okay not to want to be in it. It’s okay to focus on the future instead.
Lughnasadh is coming up next week. I’ve been thinking a lot about cycles and seasons—how life moves whether we’re ready or not.
Over the past few months I’ve been learning more about the human condition, mostly by dipping a reluctant toe back into dating. Honestly? Not my favorite thing. I miss the familiarity of my old relationship. I miss the comfort of being with someone who already knew all my quirks—someone who understood that I.do.not.drink.coffee. Someone who could spell my first name correctly.
That’s the thing about old love: it’s easy to romanticize. Easy to see its imperfections as charm, like the patina on a vintage dish. It can make you forget why it ended. It can make you forget how painful it felt, being lonely inside a relationship. Because that kind of loneliness cuts deeper than the quiet I sit with now.
Dating has made me feel young, in a way. I’ve met interesting people: a fisherman, a retired police officer, a service dog trainer, veterans, people who moved here from cities. I’ve flirted. I’ve heard new stories. I’ve been reminded that there are so many different types of people right in our own backyard.
But I’ve also met people like me—emotionally dented and dinged. We all arrive with our baggage tucked neatly out of sight. We smile and talk the weather, pretending not to notice the matching scars we both wear.
One date even made it to a second round before leaving me with the smallest heartbreak—a paper cut instead of a wound, but pain is pain. And honestly? I’m tired.
I’m tired of giving my mental bandwidth to this. I don’t know how else to meet people at this stage of life. Dating apps? Meh. I’ve met some people, sure, but it feels like a numbers game. And while I know the more open I am, the more likely I’ll find someone who fits… I’m just so ready to skip to the part where someone already fits. The comfortable sweatpants phase. Lazy Sundays on the couch. That soft, easy love.
But the only way is through. And some days, it’s dark in this tunnel. I keep going, but it feels like I’ll never feel the sun on my face again.
I’ve largely decentered men and romance from my life. But I won’t lie—it still lingers in the corner of my heart. It’s become a chore, like checking email. Another obligatory meet-and-greet with an 85% chance we’ll both ghost each other by next week.
So here I am. Still walking. Still hoping. Trying to trust the process, even when the path feels endless.
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Celebrating Lughnasadh: Honoring the First Harvest
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Lughnasadh, also known as Lammas, is celebrated on August 1st and marks the beginning of the harvest season. Named after the Celtic god Lugh, this festival is a time to give thanks for the first fruits of the earth, particularly grains and cereals. For those following a nature-based spiritual path, Lughnasadh is a time to celebrate abundance, community, and the cycles of nature. Here are some ways to honor this ancient festival in a modern, nature-based way.
Harvest Decorations
Decorating your home with symbols of the harvest is a great way to embrace the spirit of Lughnasadh. Use items like wheat sheaves, corn husks, sunflowers, and autumn-colored fabrics to create a warm and festive atmosphere. Arrange a centerpiece with fresh fruits and vegetables, and consider adding candles and crystals that represent abundance and prosperity.
Baking Bread
One of the traditional activities for Lughnasadh is baking bread, symbolizing the first fruits of the grain harvest. Try baking your own bread from scratch, using whole grains if possible. As you knead the dough, infuse it with intentions of gratitude and abundance. Share your homemade bread with family and friends as a symbol of community and shared blessings.
Harvest Feast
Celebrate Lughnasadh with a feast that features seasonal foods. Include dishes made from fresh vegetables, fruits, and grains. Think about hearty salads, vegetable soups, fruit pies, and, of course, your homemade bread. Use this meal as an opportunity to express gratitude for the abundance of the earth and the labor that goes into growing and harvesting food.
Crafting Corn Dollies
Crafting corn dollies is a traditional Lughnasadh activity. These small figures made from corn husks or wheat stalks can be used as decorations or placed on your altar. Corn dollies are believed to embody the spirit of the grain, and creating them can be a meditative practice that connects you to the cycles of nature and the energy of the harvest.
Recommended Resource: Children's Intro to Lughnasadh: An Illustrated Guide
Nature Walk and Foraging
Take a walk in nature to connect with the season's abundance. Look for wild berries, herbs, and other edible plants that are ready for harvest. Foraging can be a mindful and rewarding activity that brings you closer to the natural world. Be sure to forage responsibly, taking only what you need and leaving enough for wildlife and future growth.
Gratitude Rituals
Lughnasadh is a time to give thanks for the abundance in your life. Create a gratitude ritual by writing down things you are thankful for on slips of paper and placing them in a jar or bowl. You can also create a gratitude tree by hanging these notes on a branch decorated with ribbons and small ornaments. Take time each day to add to your gratitude collection and reflect on your blessings.
Community and Sharing
Lughnasadh is a festival that traditionally involved community gatherings and celebrations. If possible, organize a gathering with friends and family to celebrate together. Share a meal, tell stories, and enjoy each other's company. If gathering in person isn't feasible, consider a virtual celebration where everyone can share their experiences and gratitude.
Lughnasadh is a time of abundance, gratitude, and community, deeply rooted in the cycles of nature. By incorporating these modern practices, you can create a meaningful and personal Lughnasadh celebration that honors the old traditions while embracing the new. Whether you are alone or with loved ones, these rituals and activities can help you connect deeply with the spirit of Lughnasadh and the turning of the seasons.
How are you celebrating Lughnasadh?
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