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My To-Do List Will Never Be Done - And That’s Okay

Last week, I wrote about chasing a feeling and how life can feel perpetually just out of reach. This week, I want to explore the idea of completion - of checking off every box on your to-do list. Because let’s be honest— as a society we are obsessed with it. There are whole platforms like Notion, Trello, and Microsoft Planner dedicated to helping people get stuff done.

My toxic trait is making a completely unhinged to-do list for myself and then feeling frustrated when I cross off 2-3 items at most. Sure, there’s something cathartic about ticking a box and the deep satisfaction of finishing something. But lately, I’ve noticed my to-do lists never seem to shrink. In fact, they only seem longer. And usually, this correlates with an uptick in stress in my life.

I think know stress drives me to make lists as a way to establish some semblance of control. But the lists often become useless because I never come close to finishing them. Here’s the thing: if you are like me, your to-do lists are never finished. There’s always one lurking in the shadows, waiting to steal your Saturday morning or swallow your after-work routine—all with the promise that this list will finally get you organized and get your sh!t together.

As Jack Nicholson says in The Witches of Eastwick—one of my all-time favorite movies—“You wash the dishes, there’s more to wash tomorrow.” Sure, in the movie he’s literally the devil trying to convince Cher to eschew her domestic responsibilities and sleep over, but he’s not wrong about the dishes. Some things in life will never be done. Yet we tackle them like they can be. And that’s how frustration and overwhelm creep in.

I enjoy a clean house, but not at the expense of my limited free time and energy. At some point, it’s okay to say: this is good enough. The floors don’t need to sparkle, the laundry doesn’t need to be folded immediately, and the dishes can wait until morning. The same goes for your to-do list. It’s okay to cap it at two or three things instead of trying to do everything in a single day. Doing a few things well—and then resting—often serves us far better than exhausting ourselves in the pursuit of “caught up,” a state that rarely exists anyway.

As we start 2026, many people start plotting the whole new year - new me. If this is you and you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by everything you think you should be tackling this year, I’m here to say—put down the pen and paper, close out your Notes app, and take a beat. Ask yourself: what’s driving the need to accomplish everything right now?

To help, I have my Let It Go List, which I first shared back in 2022. It’s a simple tool that helps you sift through all the things floating around in your brain, and categorize them as important or something to just let go - at least for now. While my priorities have shifted since creating my Let It Go List, much of the advice still rings true. Check out the full post and grab the free download here.

How long is your to-do list? Are you going to let some things go in 2026?

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2026: Are We All Just Chasing a Feeling?

As we enter the deepest part of winter in the northern hemisphere, I find it’s a good time to slow down and take stock. I’ve been reviewing my finances, my work and school schedules, and the long list of upcoming tasks. I’ve also been plotting a fun—but frugal—2026.

My post–nursing school bucket list includes:

Binge-watching PBS period pieces (Wolf Hall!)
Enjoying leisurely lunches with friends and family
Planning an actual vacation where I leave the state of Maine—not just a few days off from classes
Organizing my cupboards (for reasons I can’t fully explain, I’ve been longing to do this all year)
Trying new seasonal recipes
Creating a new painting every month
Reading a new book every month (recommendations welcome)

But the thing I’m most looking forward to in 2026 is simplifying my life and no longer having to balance work and school. I long for the days when I’m not studying, or thinking about studying, or feeling guilty that I haven’t studied enough. The closer I get to the end of my nursing program, the more I fantasize about the glorious, simple, cottage-core life waiting for me on the other side.

And then, all at once, I have to remind myself that what I have right now is good. That it’s okay to be happy, content, even joyful in the present, even if life feels messy. I don’t need to delay my happiness until some mythical endpoint where all my stressors politely pack up and leave me alone among my flower beds and journals. Because that day is not coming.

There will always be something to worry or fret about. At least for me—because that’s how I’m wired. Maybe it’s because I’m an eldest daughter, granddaughter, and great-granddaughter (the trifecta). Or maybe my tendency to overthink stems from past trauma I’m only now able to start processing.

Whatever the reason, I’ve spun this tale in my head before: Life will be great when… That way of thinking is deeply ingrained in my psyche—I could walk it blindfolded. But I’m old enough now to know that I cling to bright, shiny futures not because they’re true, but because they’re familiar. And familiarity feels safe.

It’s easy to outsource our joy to the future. To hide in planning mode when what we really need is action. As long as we idealize what could be, we miss out on what is. And friends, I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to let go of that old way of thinking.

If you want to simplify your life, it probably requires action—not just thoughts. Want your home to be easier to care for? You likely need to declutter. Want to get your finances in order? You have to sit down and make a budget. Tired of feeling like you’re spinning your wheels? You may need to be honest with yourself about what’s working, a little less honest about what you wish were working, and move accordingly.

For me, the life I long for often feels perpetually just out of reach—I can almost brush it with my fingertips. And while I’ve gotten better at taking action and rethinking what happiness and peace actually look like, there are still days when I feel frustrated that I’m grappling with the same old problems. But maybe that’s just life. Isn’t there always something—or someone—that becomes a thorn in your side? If I’m not careful, I could easily fritter away the rest of my days waiting for perfection.

And maybe the work, now, is this: learning to stop waiting. To stop treating peace like a reward I’ll earn later, once I’ve finished becoming who I think I’m supposed to be. Maybe a simpler life doesn’t arrive all at once on the other side of an ending, but in small, imperfect choices made right here—while things are unfinished, while I’m still learning, while the cupboards are half-organized and the future remains unknowable. Maybe this moment, messy and incomplete as it is, is already asking me to stay.

Do you ever feel like you are chasing a life that always feels out of reach? What helps you stay grounded in the present, while still looking forward to the future?

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Slow Living Isn’t Always Easy Living

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In a world that moves faster with every passing day, the concept of slow living has become increasingly appealing. It's romanticized in social media reels of morning routines with hand-ground coffee, homemade bread rising on a counter, and a wardrobe of carefully curated linen dresses. But slow living isn’t synonymous with homesteading or traditional domestic roles (sometimes labeled “trad wives”). Nor is it about achieving an aesthetic ideal. Slow living is about being intentional with your time, energy, and resources. And let’s be real—it’s not always easy, especially when juggling a full-time job, family responsibilities, or the demands of modern life.

What Is Slow Living?

At its core, slow living is about pausing in a fast-paced world to intentionally savor life. It’s the practice of living in alignment with your values and focusing on what truly brings joy and fulfillment. For some, this might look like growing their own food or sewing their clothes. For others, it might be as simple as taking a moment to breathe deeply between Zoom meetings or spending a Saturday reorganizing their space to reflect a sense of calm and order.

The challenge of slow living is finding ways to integrate it into the reality of modern life, where the workweek often stretches beyond 40 hours and free time feels fleeting.

Mindful Spending

One pillar of slow living is financial intentionality. This doesn’t mean cutting yourself off from every luxury but rather thinking carefully about how and why you spend.

Low or No-Spend Challenges: Commit to a month of buying only necessities, like groceries or gas, and see how it transforms your perspective. Use the time and money saved to reflect on what truly brings joy into your life.
Using What You Have: That pantry you keep meaning to organize? Or the forgotten art supplies collecting dust? Slow living encourages us to rediscover and use what we already own instead of constantly acquiring more.

But intentionality doesn’t mean never buying something new. Sometimes, investing in a well-made item that truly aligns with your needs or values is the best choice. For instance, if you’ve been considering something linked here from one of my affiliate recommendations, know that mindful purchases—ones that improve your life or reduce waste in the long run—can absolutely fit within the ethos of slow living. Just take a moment to ask yourself, Does this support the life I’m trying to build?

Mindful spending isn’t just about saving money—it’s about reducing the mental clutter that comes with overconsumption and ensuring your purchases add true value to your life.

If you are looking for some inspiration for simplifying and living with more intention The Year of Less by Cait Flanders is a great listen while cleaning, exercising or relaxing.

Taking Care of What You Own

Slow living thrives on the principle of care—caring for your belongings, your surroundings, and yourself. Instead of rushing out to replace broken items, invest time in repairing them. Tend to your home regularly, not as a chore but as an act of love for your space. Polishing a wood table, folding your clothes with care, or even cleaning your car can feel like meditative acts when done with intention.

This principle extends beyond the physical into the realm of health and spirit. Slow living asks you to tend to yourself—whether it’s through nourishing meals, time outside, meditation, or quiet reflection.

Reclaiming Fun Without Spending

The “slow” in slow living also applies to how we entertain ourselves. In a culture that often equates fun with shopping sprees, dining out, or expensive vacations, it can feel counterintuitive to prioritize free or low-cost activities.

Spend an afternoon hiking a local trail, reading a book from the library, or baking something from scratch.
Rediscover hobbies that don’t require frequent purchases—gardening, journaling, knitting, or painting.
Plan intentional time with friends, like potluck dinners or board game nights, where connection takes center stage over consumption.

The beauty of these activities is that they cultivate fulfillment without adding financial or mental clutter.

Slowing Down to Speed Up Fulfillment

It’s easy to mistake slow living for simplicity or laziness, but this lifestyle is often anything but. It takes effort to slow down in a culture that prioritizes productivity and instant gratification. It takes time to reflect on what truly matters and to live in a way that aligns with your values.

Slow living isn’t about being idle; it’s about creating a life you don’t feel the need to escape from. A life where you feel joy in the little things—a tidy corner of your home, a well-loved pair of shoes, the quiet moments you carve out for yourself.

The Reason for Slowing Down

Ultimately, slow living isn’t the goal itself—it’s a means to an end. The reason we slow down isn’t just to move more slowly but to create a life we love. It’s about feeling fulfilled, aligned, and connected to what matters most.

So yes, slow living isn’t always easy. But the rewards—inner peace, a stronger sense of purpose, and more room for joy—make the effort worthwhile.

What small step can you take today to begin slowing down? Maybe it’s a five-minute pause, a deep breath, or a commitment to repair instead of replace. Whatever it is, know that slow living is a practice, not a destination. One mindful moment at a time, you can create a life you love.